瑞典情感王子教你如何与瑞典男女交往和谈婚嫁

2020-05-14 09:07:55 来源:北欧时报

瑞典情感王子教你如何与瑞典男女交往和谈婚嫁

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主播:SueAnne 萱萱/毛珺萱-丹麦-国际直播联盟创始会长。



嘉宾:Patrick-Sweden-在年销售额百亿的瑞典公司担任运营总监-8国语言包括中文。


SueAnne 萱萱:

非常感谢瑞典的嘉宾情感王子PATRICK的连线。今天我们希望与PATRICK 一起探讨:与瑞典男女交往以及谈婚嫁时,我们应该要注意什么。


If I was going to date a Swedish boy, what should I do? What should I pay attention to?

如果我要和一个瑞典男孩子约会,我应该怎么做?应该注意什么?


PATRICK

首先非常感谢邀请,然后是我想说,恭喜你,你今天很漂亮,你的直播间也很漂亮!


It is like in every marriage, or relationship, you have to be your self, life in Sweden and Scandinavia is very simple, majority of people are very simple. You dont need to pretend being someone else, you can just be your self. You don’t need to do anything special, but it is important that you talk about the different subjects, talk about weather is a part of our society.

这好比每一段婚姻或关系,你必须做好你自己。在瑞典和北欧的生活是很简单的,大多数人是很简单的。不需要假装成别人,就做你自己就好了。 你不需要做任何特别的事情,但重要的是,你可以与人谈论不同的话题,谈论天气是社会生活的一部分。我们这里没有那么浮躁。我们就喜欢聊天。


SueAnne 萱萱

浮躁这个词你都知道?哈哈,你好棒!就是说,我想要和瑞典的男孩子交往,我就要学会沟通,学会聊天气、聊兴趣爱好是吗?


PATRICK

For example in China we start conversation about food, Did you eat? But here in Sweden, we start mostly the conversation with Nice weather today or It is rainy today. This has impact on our life, because weather is mostly rainy and cloudy, snow and windy.

是的。当然还可以聊世界新闻,聊最新的科技,很多很多。例如,在中国,我们从谈论食物为开场,你吃饭了吗?但在瑞典,我们主要谈论今天的好天气或下雨的话题开始。天气会影响我们的生活,因为天气主要是阴雨和多云,雪和大风。


SueAnne 萱萱

那假如我的语言不好怎么办?比如我不会英语也不会瑞典语,怎么沟通呢?


PATRICK

这是个很大的问题。我以前的中国女朋友,就不懂英语和瑞典语。


SueAnne 萱萱

Ja, det tror jeg også. Hvad med mere i forhold til kommunikationen?

是的,我也这么认为。 那如何沟通呢?


PATRICK

And you Don’t need to dress very much, don’t need to much make up, woman in Scandinavia don’t wear to much make up, and not high heals or short short dresses because you send a wrong signal to majority of men, if you want a serious relationship keep it simple.

你不需要太多衣服,不需要太多的化妆。北欧的女人不太注重过于化妆,也不穿高跟鞋或短裙,因为这样你传递一个错误的信号给大多数男人。如果你想要一段认真严肃的关系,保持简单就好。


SueAnne 萱萱

Wow, That’s good! 这么简单!那女孩子就不用花太多时间和钱在衣服和化妆品上了,是吗?那我下次直播是不是连口红也不用涂了?哈哈。


Patrick:

You should talk about different subjects, school, world latest news, work, technology and other subjects. But family is not something we talk about. Of course, we talk about friends and we here in Sweden we have life long friends compared to China, most of the friends are short term.

你应该谈论不同的课题,学校,世界最新新闻,工作,技术和其他主题。但是关于家庭不是我们谈论的事情。当然,我们谈论朋友,我们在瑞典有终身的朋友,相比在中国,大多数朋友都是短期短暂的。


SueAnne 萱萱:

when we argue or start a quarrel, how should I communicate with Swedish boys?

如果我们发生冲突或争吵时,我应该如何与瑞典男孩子沟通?


Patrick:

Quarrel is a universal thing, we all quarrel but we here in Scandinavia we talk a lot, this is difference with China, in China men don’t talk and woman don’t talk either, we here like to debate and argument every decision and even if we don’t agree we talk and put our opinion in a way so our partner understands, talking is the way to go. Talk, talk and talk. Communicating is in our culture, we are a very peaceful people. We argument on every thing, we talk a lot, talking is our most important tool we have, in work, in family and in life, we spend a lot of time with each other so we talk about everything. We are aware about most of the things that happens in our life, in work and everywhere.

争吵是件平常事,我们都吵架了,但在斯堪的纳维亚我们讨论很多。这与中国很不一样,在中国男人不说话,女人也不说话。我们在瑞典这里喜欢辩论和争论每一个决定,即使我们不同意,也会把我们的意见看法说出来,所以我们的另一半或对方能明白理解。交谈才是出路。总之就是要聊啊聊啊说啊。沟通刻在我们的文化里,其实我们是非常和平的人。 我们争论每一件事,我们谈得很多,讨论是我们最重要的工具,在工作,家庭和生活中,我们花了很多时间给彼此,所以我们谈论一切。


SueAnne 萱萱:

How can I get the Swedish boy or man to marry me? 我怎样才能让瑞典男孩或男人娶我呢?


Patrick:

Marriage is not very important to us, but love is important, we fall in love and love and commitment is key for us, Marriage do not have that impact in our relationship like the Chinese society. Swedish gilrs are simple, they want to talk about everything, the communicate, about work, culture, latest trends and love, they want to hear that you love them every day, we say a lot, in China we don’t say very much. Using words is not very important in China, but in Sweden and Scandinavia and western word is love important. Some people marry after they get children or when they get old after being together for 30 years, this is just for fun, but this has no impact on how much we love our partner or how much we care.

婚姻对我们来说不是很重要,但爱情很重要,我们相爱,爱,承诺对我们来说是关键,婚姻不像中国社会那样对两个人的关系的影响那么大。瑞典的女孩很简单,他们想谈论一切,沟通,关于工作,文化,最新趋势和爱,他们想听到你爱他们每一天,我们说很多关于爱,在中国说得很少。在中国,使用语言不是很重要,但在瑞典和斯堪的纳维亚和西方,使用词很重要。有些人结婚后,他们有孩子,或当他们变老后,在一起30年,这只是生活乐趣,但这不会影响我们是多么爱我们的伴侣或我们是多么关心她


SueAnne 萱萱:

你是瑞典男人,请问你是如何撩妹的?如何得到女孩子的喜欢,然后成为你的女朋友?


Patrick:

The girls love, be yourself, in Scandinavia we need to be simple and our self, honest. Love is something that cannot be pushed or acting, it is something that comes from inside us. 为了爱做好你自己,在斯堪的纳维亚,我们需要简单朴实,我们自我,诚实。爱是不能逼迫和过于压抑的,它是我们难以言喻内心最美好的东西。


SueAnne 萱萱:

What kind of girl do you think is the most attractive? What kind of girl would you like to marry?

你认为哪种女孩最有吸引力?你想要和什么样的女孩子结婚?


Patrick:

Simple, educated with good family background. We here in Sweden we know all about the past, family, friends and education. It must be educated and have long term friends. My personal opinion long term friends, or life long friends is a indication of ones character and stability in life.

简单,受过良好教育,有良好的家庭背景。我们在瑞典了解对方的过去、家庭、朋友和教育。必须接受教育,并有长期的好朋友/闺蜜。我个人认为有长期的朋友,或终身的朋友,是一个性格稳定的人生标志。


SueAnne 萱萱:

How to deal with long-distance relationships: Girls feel insecure. In addition, how to reassure girls' parents? How to overcome the difficulties of living habits, such as diet.

如何处理异地恋:女孩子会有不安全感。另外,如何让女孩子的爸爸妈妈放心?如何跨越生活习惯的困难,比如饮食等?


Patrick:

This is not easy, the cultural difference makes it even more difficult. But true love overcomes everything.

这并不容易,文化差异使它更加困难。但真爱可以克服一切。

When you have a chinese girlfriend, then you get a package with parents

当你有一个中国女友时,你就被和她的父母一起打包给你了。


SueAnne 萱萱:

你真幽默!哈哈。那你接受这个中国的package吗?


Patrick:

是的,我接受。这是中国文化。我爱我的女朋友,所以我也爱我的package


SueAnne 萱萱:

那瑞典的女孩子呢?她们有没有什么package 给她的男朋友?


Patrick:

没有。瑞典女人比较简单。你只要长得帅,她喜欢你,你要会聊天,就可以了!


SueAnne 萱萱:

哈哈,北欧确实很简单!为了爱,什么都可以在一起,没有爱就像僵尸般的噩梦。

直播间的男神女神们,听到了吗?